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THIS THIS THIS! ✨ This feels like you all wrapped up in a post and I absolutely love that. Like if someone asks me, what's Carly like? I wanna link to this. Absolutely love your intentionality in your reach outs and connecting the dots to get where you want to go.

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Wow I love that, please do this! 🤩

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Apr 18Liked by Carly Valancy

“I started asking, directly, for what I really wanted, becoming braver with each email.”

I love this.

I’m working through internalizing this myself. You can have whatever you want, but not before you want it enough to say it with your whole chest.

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Oof I'm obsessed with that. What a great re-contextualized version of that idea.

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Apr 18Liked by Carly Valancy

Woww!! The examples are THE BEST!! Loved this way of living life!

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right?! so many incredible and creative people out there.

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Love this and the specific examples!!

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"I found my back door. I realized I didn’t have to be the smartest or most beautiful or most talented person in the holding room, but I could be the most resourceful. I could be the one paying close enough attention to know that there had to be a different way to get where I wanted to go." very well written. This was good read with a clear and actionable insight. Thank you for writing this.

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Apr 18·edited Apr 18Liked by Carly Valancy

I find it hard to believe you would ever NOT be the smartest, beautiful-est, most talented person in any room you walked into.

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We need to get you to an open call in NYC then 🥰

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Apr 23Liked by Carly Valancy

"There had to be a window or a back door or little doggie flap I could squeeze through."

I'm not sure which I love more — your sparkly way with words or your insight. ☀️

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Laura!! You're the best thank you for reading and sharing! 🥰

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Love everything about this! Thanks for sharing these stories so well.

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Thanks Jordan 💚

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LOVE the examples you included. Great piece!

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Apr 18Liked by Carly Valancy

Thank you for this post, Carly - especially for the diverse examples of how other people have put this strategy to good use. Exactly what I needed to read at exactly the right time :)

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I'm so glad, thats the best.

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You are awesome Carly!!! Love these reflections :)

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Apr 18Liked by Carly Valancy

Love this 💕

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Apr 20Liked by Carly Valancy

I love this post!

Simply because it shows a high-agency trait to find ways to get what we really want (in a good way).

Gonna save this as an inspiration too, thanks!

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Absolutely. Thanks for reading!

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Apr 20Liked by Carly Valancy

Awesome story, thanks for sharing!

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